How To Talk To Shy Girls Without Scaring Them Away
We can all feel a little shy from time to time and there is nothing worse trying to talk to someone you like when you just can’t seem to get over the initial nerves. We have all been there – you really like someone but you just can’t seem to stop the stomach gripping feeling of nerves that make you come across completely differently to how you really are.
So how do you talk to girls who are shy without scaring them off? Shy girls can be really hard to talk to, if they are painfully shy then they may even try to avoid talking to you as they are embarrassed – they might do this even if they think you are hot and would love to go out on a date with you!
In these cases the best thing that you can do is to make her feel as though the conversation is as natural as possible. You will need to engineer a situation so that you won’t have her running for the hills.
These types of conversations are easiest to strike up in a workplace or a group where the two of you will go on a regular basis, this way you can take a slow approach and try to get to know her over a long period of time, so that you can make her feel comfortable in your presence.
If she is shy then you need to make sure that you are in charge of the conversation and make her feel as relaxed as possible. This is easier said than done, so it would be a really good idea to go in prepared. If you can use your body language to relax her then this will also help your cause. A genuine smile will really make her put down her barriers, so by smiling and also making her laugh you will be creating the right mood to get to know her better. Keep your body language open and relaxed and this will hopefully help her to realize that you are easy to get along with and she may start to open up and start to lose her shyness when you are around.
What To Say
When in doubt try and use humor. Nothing relaxes people and makes them feel more at ease than laughing, so if you can try and work some humor into the conversation to try and make it feel less awkward, then this might help to ease everyone’s nerves and make her more likely to let her guard down when she is around you.
Another great tip is to get her talking about something that she is passionate about, as she is then more likely to open up and feel more comfortable talking to you. So try and find out about her interests and whether or not she has any hobbies.
If you find that she’s not able to keep the conversation going, then you need to. But you don’t want to ask too many questions. Don’t turn it into a job interview. You can talk about things you like or things you’re into and hopefully she’ll comment.
Above all, do not let her see that you’re nervous. If you feel nervous or scared try your best to hide it. If she senses your fear it’s going to make her clam up even more and the conversation will get incredibly awkward. Be natural and relaxed as it will make her feel more at ease.
If she does not relax when you are around her then maybe she is being shy for a reason and you and her are not right for each other.
If conversation is too difficult or she is very unresponsive even after you have tried to be friendly and make her feel at ease, then it might be a sign that you should move your attentions to someone else.