How To Get A Girls Number
Most men are rejected when trying to get a girl’s number for one reason: they just don’t go about it the right way.
The first thing you need to know is that a girl is not going to give you her number unless she feels some kind of attraction towards you; and even if she gives out a number without feeling this attraction, it is unlikely that that it will be her right number (you’ll call and get a pizza place or better yet, an STD clinic).
This is why you need to learn how to get a girl’s number the right way, so when you call…she answers. You don’t have to be Charlie Sheen and post your cell phone number on your Twitter account. There are more, subtle and effective ways to get girls on the phone.
When a girl gives you her number she’s interested in learning more about you. This does NOT mean, however, that she wants to be your girlfriend so take it slow. Work your way in, get her number, and then take it from there. When you call her (or text her) you can continue the discussion you were having before (it’s a great way to get a conversation rolling).
However, before you go and waste too much time on teaching yourself how to get a girls number, let me show you how to do it right.
First we’ll start off by going over the most common mistakes that guys make.
Common Mistakes Guys Make When Learning How To Get A Girl’s Number
1.Asking for the number too soon.
This is a very common mistake guys make. Most guys are in a hurry, because they feel nervous, hesitant and timid. So they rush it to “get it over with.” You can’t expect a girl to give you her number after talking to you for only 2 minutes. To get a girl’s REAL number, you have to work for it, spending at least 15-20 minutes of productive interaction with her. Asking for her number too soon will portray you as clueless and insecure, with nothing valuable to offer her.
2. Asking for her number without first making sure that she’s into you.
As I just mentioned, most guys are in a hurry. When you want a girl to give you her number and do so becaue she actually wants to talk to you (and not just give it to you to get rid of you) you must establish a connection with her.
It’s a delicate situation that you have to handle properly. Girls aren’t just sitting around waiting for some guy they don’t know to come up and ask for her number within 15 seconds of meeting her. Plus women get hit on constantly, so you have to bring some game with you or she’ll blow you off.
There needs to be an introduction, some conversation and an established link or sign of attraction. When this happens she’ll be more comfortable and asking for her number won’t feel so awkward.
3. Not being straightforward.
Some guys will beat around the bush and take too long to ask for the number. Don’t let your motives be murky. Tell her you’d like her number because you find her interesting and you’d like to talk to her more. Or just simply tell her that you’d like to continue the conversation you’re having some other time and then ask if you can call her. The more straightfoward you are the smoother it will go.
Also, being direct without being pushy or aggressive is a sign of confidence (and women LOVE confidence).
5. Forgetting her name before you ask for her number.
Most guys have a pretty lousy memory. It can get pretty awkward asking a girl her name twice in less than 20 minutes. Girls are very sensitive and forgetting their names can be a sign that you do not care. Forgetting her name is a big red flag for her.
One tip that’s always helped me to remember a girl’s name is to repeat it frequently while you’re talking to her. Not only does it help you remember it but it also makes her feel like you’re really focusing on her and the conversation. It’s a win-win situation.
Now that we’ve gone over what you shouldn’t do, let’s go over what you should do to get a girls phone number…
How To Get A Girl’s Number
1. Approach her respectfully.
It is important that you approach the girl whose number you are interested in with respect. Approach her with a smile and maintain eye contact. Introduce yourself and smile while you do it. Don’t sneak up on her. Make sure she sees you coming.
2. Introduce yourself to her.
Because it’s your first encounter with her, be sure to introduce yourself in a polite and modest manner. While maintaining strong eye contact, tell her what your first name is. Ask her for her name (if she doesn’t immediately offer it) and then tell her “it’s nice to meet you.”
Make sure you maintain a positive energy. You can do this with body language. Keep your head up and stand up straight and don’t cross your arms and legs. Don’t fidget and don’t look around the room. Focus on her and her alone.
Avoid giving her any compliments on her personal appearance this early. Engage her in situational conversation (find something around you that you can talk about). For example: if you’re in a coffee shop, ask her what she’s drinking or mention something about the “mean barista” who wasn’t smiling. Keep it light and avoid questions that aren’t open-ended.
3. Learn to read between the lines.
You should be able to tell immediately what she’s thinking. If she’s standoffish or doesn’t seem interested, don’t push it. Just walk away. There’s nothing worse than a guy who can’t take a hint. There are so many women in the world that focusing time on one that’s not interested in you is a huge waste.
4. Simply ask her for her number.
You want to handle this intelligently. Don’t try to force it into the conversation. A great way to get her number is to wait until there’s a slight pause in the conversation, look at your watch (or phone), and say that you have to get going. Tell her that you had a nice time talking to her and that you’d like to continue the conversation. Then ask for her number.
How To Get A Girl’s Number: A Quick Trick
A great trick to get a girl’s number I’ve learned is to instead of asking for her number, ask for her email. This is also a good trick for guys who are in a hurry. If you’re talking to a girl for a few minutes and you’ve established a connection, tell her that you have to get going and that it was nice talking to her. This will be a strange moment for her because most women are used to guys sticking around too long. But you’ve just cut the conversation short and left.
Right as you’re turning to walk away ask her if she has email. Don’t ask for her email address. Ask her if she has email:
Say…”Hey, do you have email?”
Of course she’s going to say yes unless she lives in the forest. So when she says yes, say…”Great, write it down for me” and hand her a piece of paper and a pen. Then as she’s writing the number down say, “Oh, and write your phone number down too.”
Giving you an email address isn’t a big risk for women. She probably won’t even think twice about it. It’s a psychological thing. She’s already agreed to give you her email so, in essence, she’s also agreed to give you her number.
Carry a pen and paper around with you at all times and try and use this little how to get a girls number trick as often as you can. The more you practice, the better you’ll get at it.