How To Flirt With Women – 5 Effective Flirting Tips For Men
Although it seems like it should be easy, flirting with women is anything but. That’s why on this page I will show you how to do it effectively with 3 flirting tips for men.
These tips really work, but don’t think that you will be able to master them overnight. Learning any skill can take some time and flirting with women is no different.
Considering that the flirting toolboxes of most men include comments such as “Do you come here often?”, “Where are you from?” and “Can I buy you a drink?” it is not surprising that so many men fail miserably at successfully attracting beautiful women by flirting effectively with them.
If you’re sick and tired of the same outdated dating advice for men that include only the basics such as, making eye contact, smiling, and giving compliments, then the following tips will be a breath of fresh air for you.
The 5 Steps To Successful Flirting
Why learn how to do it RIGHT way? Well, everybody flirts. It’s in our biological makeup to do so. According to Time Magazine, scientists call flirting “contact-readiness” because they indicate that you’re prepared for physical engagement. It’s natural. But not everyone can do it effectively. If you do, then you stand a MUCH, MUCH greater chance of getting women.
Time Magazine says about flirting:
One of the reasons we flirt in this way is that we can’t help it. We’re programmed to do it, whether by biology or culture. The biology part has been investigated by any number of researchers. Ethologist Irenaus Eibl Eibesfeldt, then of the Max Planck Institute in Germany, filmed African tribes in the 1960s and found that the women there did the exact same prolonged stare followed by a head tilt away with a little smile that he saw in America. (The technical name for the head movement is a “cant.” Except in this case it’s more like “can.”)”
So it’s biological. But the ability to do it right is not born in us. We have to learn how to do it. The following 5 tips will help you out.
1. Be clean. This may seem like a no-brainer but you’d be surprised how many guys overlook this. Make sure you’re clean and that you’ve brushed your teeth (and used mouthwash). Nothing will kill your chances faster than being stinky.
2. Smile. When you see a girl you’d like to talk to give her a smile. A smile says to her that “you’re non-threatening.” Do NOT stare at her for 45 mintues prior to engaging her. It won’t work.
3. Go talk to her. Just walk up to her and ask her a simple question. Ask her what time it is or where the nearest coffee shop is. This is how you “break the ice.” When she tells you where the coffee shop is, ask her if she’s ever been there before and what drink she recommends. This will be your “in” to get the conversation rolling.
Important How To Flirt With Women Tip–> It’s at this point you should be able to tell whether or not she’s interested. If she seems disinterested then thank her and walk away.
4. Use confident body language when flirting. Make sure you stand straight and don’t slouch. Don’t cross your arms or have your hands buried in your pockets. Maintain eye contact and try your hardest to put out a “positive” vibe. A great way to do this is to imagine yourself as the most handsome and successful man in the world and then act as though you are. This may sound silly but it works.
5. Check your phone/watch and tell her you have to go. You don’t want to overstay your welcome. After a bit of conversation and you can sense that she’s into you, politely tell her that you have to go, but that you’d like to talk to her again. This is when you ask her for her phone number.
4 Important Basics You Need To Know
1. No More Mr. Nice Guy
You need to understand how attraction works for women, since this is one of the keys to getting the results you want. What you need to understand is that women want men who make them feel safe and secure. However, at the same time, they want danger and excitement. Nice guys that do EVERYTHING a woman asks for rarely garner respect because it doesn’t seem that they respect themselves. Women do NOT like a man who doesn’t have some self-respect/confidence. In other words, if you’re a doormat, you’re not going to get very far with women.
Sometimes the phrase, “Nice Guys Finish Last” actually has some merit.
Consider how you feel when you’re around someone who does everything the way you want it done. No one likes a “yes man.” This type of person is overly submissive and probably is not going to be effective at taking a stand or handling confrontation. Women want men who can protect them, this is why so many nice guys fail at attracting and keeping a woman.
This is something you need to remember. You don’t have to be a tough guy like Sylvester Stallone but you need to show her that you have some balls. Don’t do everything she asks. Be polite and courteous but don’t be a push-over.
This is especially true for very attractive women. Very attractive women generally have more men competing for her attention. She is more accustomed to having men do what she wants just so they can have and keep her attention (at least that’s what these men think they are doing). This is boring for women and you will need to set yourself apart from all those other men by being a bit unpredictable and more exciting.
2. Being Unpredictable
You may wonder how to balance being safe and secure with being exciting. Being unpredictable, which leaves the woman guessing, creates an aura of excitement around you. It makes her feel like “anything could happen next” and this is a good feeling. It also sparks sexual tension because if they think you’re spontaneous and unpredictable outside the bedroom then imagine how you will be like in it. You will of course, need to develop a balance of mystery, confidence, responsibility and unpredictability.
That may sound difficult but it really isn’t. One example would be during the introduction. When you’re flirting with a woman you just met at a bar, wait until she goes to the restroom and then ask the bartender what drink most women order (or a drink he recommends for women) and then order it for her. When she comes back she’ll get a nice, unexpected surprise!
3. Being Able To Deal With Rejection
One of the keys to successfully flirting is being able to handle rejection. If you can’t handle rejection then you’re not going to be successful with women, period.
Dealing with rejection is easy if you get into the right mindset. What you have to do is realize that you WILL be rejected. It’s happened to EVERY guy who’s ever lived (even George Clooney). What you need to focus on is not the rejection but the fact that there are millions of women out there. If one girl turns you down then move onto the next. Eventually you’ll find a girl who responds positively.
At first you may be rejected more often than accepted but that’s okay. As I said before, it’s a learning process.
4. Don’t Go “Over Your Head”
So, what do I mean by “over your head”? It means, that if you don’t look like Brad Pitt, then don’t go for women who look like Angelina Jolie. Your chances will skyrocket if you flirt with people of roughly the same level of attractiveness as yourself.
According to The SIRC (Social Issues Research Center) when talking about flirting and appearance, “Studies have shown that the more evenly matched partners are in their attractiveness, the more likely they are to stay together.”
Now, this doesn’t mean you can’t try to flirt over your head. If you’ve got a lot of confidence, then go for it. You never know, you just might land a 10 or even an 11. It never hurts to try (that is, if you can handle rejection).