Sigmund Freud said of understanding women:
“The great question that has never been answered, and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, is ‘What does a woman want?’”
Even expert psychologists, trained in understanding human behavior, have a hard time understanding women. So don’t feel bad if you don’t understand women either.
In today’s article I’m going to go over some of the ways in which you can make the seemingly random actions of women much less random. Now, there’s really NO way to fully understand the female species, but this article can help you get a little better at it (and most of the time that’s all it takes).
Below are 7 ways to understand women. Read them twice if you have to. They’re crucial to your success with dating and relationships.
1. Understanding her sensitivity.
Women are VERY nurturing and overly sensitive. This is an instinctual feeling that most women are born with (because they are the “life givers” i.e. the ones who have the baby). They have to be able to read and understand the needs of an infant who doesn’t communicate with language–only with cries, grunts, squeals, etc. Men also have this sensitivity but it’s nowhere near as sharp.
This is one of the reasons why she may seem overly sensitive to how you’re behaving. She’s instinctually aware of acute behaviors that maybe she doesn’t even know she’s aware of. It’s important that you understand this if you want to understand women. So if you’re in a relationship and she asks you why you’re being (strange, quiet, distant, etc.) then don’t get angry. Just talk to her about it. Remember she’s designed to pick up on abstract communication.
2. Don’t be overly sensitive.
Now being sensitive to her feelings and being a blubbering mess who wears his heart on his sleeve is two distinctly different things. You absolutely do NOT want to be overly sensitive.
It’s vital that you understand women who say they want a man who’s sensitive do NOT want an overly sensitive guy. They want a man who’s sensitive to THEIR needs.
Women are volatile and they know it. Therefore they want a man who can help them stay grounded. They don’t want you to be as sensitive as they are. This is crucial to understanding women.
3. Don’t be afraid to shower her with attention.
If you’re in a relationship you want to make sure you give your significant other the attention she wants. If you ignore her then you’re going to make matters worse.
4. Understand the art of communication.
If you can talk to women with confidence then you’ve almost won the war. Communication is HUGELY important to women. Now, this doesn’t mean you should be a blabber mouth. Quite the opposite. You need to be the ideal listener. Listen to what she says and actually comprehend it. Don’t just nod your head and say, “uh huh.” If you listen and respond in kind she will love you for it.
5. Show her your potential.
This is very important for guys that are not in a relationship. You can’t always understand women but what you can do is understand that if she says she just “wants to be friends” then you’re toast.
Think about it this way–if you really want a girl, would you tell her you just want to be friends? No f*cking way!
You need her to think that going out with you will be a great time that she won’t soon forget. When she knows that she’ll have a good time with you, she won’t turn you down.
I find that planning out “fun” dates in advance usually works. Find some great places to take her that she probably hasn’t been before. Do NOT take her to the movies or some other clichéd date spot.
6. Understand where she’s coming from.
If you’re in a long-term relationship then you should already know this. If not, then you’d better get to work. If you’re single then this will help you really understand the women you’ll date in the future.
When you’re understanding women you need to find out what makes them tick. Gradually find out what she likes to do, the relationship she had with her parents, what her favorite food type is, what books she likes to read, what movies she watches, what music she listens to. All of these things will give you an inside look into what makes her who she is.
If you’ve just met a girl you like then you can easily find out some of this information by going to her Facebook page. I don’t recommend asking all of these questions on the first date, however. Get to know her slowly. Understanding women is not something that you’re going to do overnight.
7. Know what women want.
Understanding women becomes much easier when you understand what most of them want from men. Now, if you’ve had a lot of experience with women then you know that the specifics of what women want can vary greatly from one woman to another. However, there are certain traits that men possess that 99% of women like.
These traits are:
1. Being appreciative
2. Being organized
3. Having drive and goals in life
4. A positive outlook
6. Being spontaneous
8. Self Maintenance (clean, hygienic, in shape)
Men’s Health ran a poll and surveyed 1,000+ women in America ages 21 to 54 asking them what traits and characteristics in men were most desirable. These traits give great insight into understanding women.
The top 5 character traits were:
4. Moral integrity
5. Fatherliness (being a good dad or the potential to become a good dad).
Understanding women becomes a little easier when you understand what it is they want. Now, of course, each woman is different but if you can do your best to have some or all of the above traits, you’ll find your relationships with women improving dramatically.