Learning how to connect with women is vital if you want to have an active dating life or if you want to have someone special to share your life with.

Let me ask you if this sounds familiar:  You went on  a date the other night with a girl you were really into.  You thought the date went really well.  You and she were laughing; there was eye contact, even a little touching.  The next day after the date you called and left a message telling her what a great time you had.

Now, it’s been a few days since you left the message and she hasn’t called you back.  What happened?  What went wrong? You don’t understand why she didn’t call you back.  You really thought the date was going great and that she was really into you.  You were looking forward to the second date.

Was it something you said?  Did you insult her at some point?  Was it the voice message you left?

Really, only two things could have happened.  One, she was abducted by space aliens.  Or two, you just didn’t connect with her.

More than likely, it’s because you guys simply didn’t make a connection.

How To Connect With Women

This is why learning how to connect with women is so important. She obviously didn’t feel the same way that you did about the date.  You didn’t connect with her on an emotional level.  Sure, she might have had a good time, but often that’s not enough.  Women are complicated and connecting with them on a single level is often insufficient to score another date.  You have to go deeper.

What you have to do is make an impact.  You have to connect with her on a level that other guys she’s dating or other guys that are flirting with her don’t.  This is the same even if you’re trying to pick a girl up in a bar or coffee shop that you just met.  How are you going to make yourself stick out from the 20 other guys that hit on her that day?

The best way to connect with women is to make her feel that she knows something about you that connects you to her.  You have to share an experience.  It can be a single laugh or a single moment.  You might not even know that it’s happening.

How To Connect With Women: How To Do It

If you want to make sure that your next date or your next pick up attempt really works then you have to focus hard on making an emotional connection.  Men and women are different so you can’t do it like you would with your friends.  Men are often connected by doing similar activities but women are connected through emotions, stories, and things you say.

It’s simpler than you might think to learn how to connect with women.  First, you need to learn as much about her as possible.  Learn where she went to school, what her friends names are, what her dog’s name is, how many brothers and sisters she has, what her dreams are, what her limits are, what she hates, what she likes, etc.

Now you don’t have to memorize all of that but knowing a few of those can mean the difference between connecting with her and not connecting.

Use that information in passing conversation.  You can even use it in the same evening.  If you begin talking to her about school and she tells you she wants to study “cat biology” then make reference to cat biology later on that night.  Show her that you are paying attention and that you really care what she’s saying.  This is a bona fide bomb-shell of effectiveness when it comes to connecting with girls.

This is essentially how to connect with women.  To secure a second date and to REALLY come off well when you call her and leave a message tell her that you had a “great time” and that “ you really loved talking to her about cat anatomy.”  Make it real and don’t bullshit her.  This will separate you from the other guys because, let’s face it, men are lazy boneheads and most guys will have trouble remembering her name.  Leaving messages and really paying attention to her will form a connection with her that most men will fail to make.

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